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“All these so-called feminists and feminism are making motherhood undesirable.” I’ve heard this too many times from people who haven’t bothered to understand what feminism truly stands for. Feminism doesn’t scare women away from motherhood—what does is the expectation of doing it all alone. Feminism has never condemned having children. Instead, it seeks to reclaim motherhood by challenging its negative stereotypes. It says: “Have a baby when you’re ready, not because society pressures you,” and “Motherhood shouldn’t derail a woman’s career or dreams—mothers deserve equal support from their partners and families.”

“Feminists don’t scare women away from motherhood. What scares them is the silence in the room when the baby cries past midnight and no one else gets up.” Too often, society frames motherhood as the end of a woman’s personal and professional aspirations. The anxiety isn’t about the baby—it’s the fear of losing one’s identity, freedom, and dreams, since women are still expected to bear the full cost of parenting. Many now believe financial stability and emotional security are essential before having children, which is why they wait until they’re truly ready.

Saying “we’re pregnant” isn’t enough—that “we” must extend through the entire journey. While mothers undergo physical changes, the workload should be shared. When feminists highlight this imbalance, they’re not rejecting motherhood; they’re asking: “Why is it still unequal?” Feminism dares to voice what women whisper at 3 am.: “I love my child, but I need help. I’m exhausted.” Yet this is misread as negativity.

Silencing feminists won’t protect motherhood—the solution lies in listening and redesigning a system where no woman must choose between motherhood and herself. “She thinks it’s only her. We had kids at her age and didn’t complain. We survived without support.” But when a young woman says, “This is hard,” the world rolls its eyes: “We did it, so can you.” They forget surviving isn’t thriving. Just because past generations endured doesn’t mean women today should carry the burden alone. Feminism insists: “You shouldn’t have to ‘figure it out’ just because others did. Your life and dreams matter.”

Then there’s the silent pressure—”Have a child; it’ll save the marriage.” As if a baby is glue, not a human. Motherhood should never be a bargaining chip. No woman should be guilted into it to avoid divorce. This is the oppression feminism fights—where a woman’s womb is treated as a solution to someone else’s fear, and her choice is erased. When motherhood becomes a tool for control or saving face, that’s not sacred—it’s oppression. True feminism champions a mother’s choice—freely, fully, and with dignity. It doesn’t turn women against motherhood; it advocates for a version that values and supports them.

“You can continue your studies after a baby—what’s the big deal?” But it’s never that simple. Who cares for the baby during class? Who shares the sleepless nights? The constant balancing act? The culprit isn’t ambition—it’s the lack of support and shared responsibility that makes education harder for mothers than for their partners. Young wives face relentless hints: “When’s your turn? We want to see our grandchild before we die.” Everyone prepares for the baby—but who prepares her for the emotional toll? Feminism says: “You can be a good partner without being ready for motherhood.”

“We’ll take care of the baby—just have it.” But who defines “take care”? Is it just diapers, or life-altering decisions? What if the mother wants to be present in her child’s early years—with the time, energy, and peace to do so? It’s not about waiting too long—it’s about being ready physically, emotionally, and financially. Historically, motherhood was a woman’s “primary purpose.” Limited opportunities enforced this ideal. But times have changed. Today, women shape their futures through education, careers, and choice. Feminism has redefined motherhood—no longer about fulfilling others’ expectations, but about empowerment and shared responsibility. We’re moving toward a world where mothers choose motherhood on their own terms, embracing every facet of who they are.

Life can get unnecessarily difficult at times so it helps to simplify things whenever possible. Little things can go a long way in making everyday life easy. Here are some simple ways to reduce the complexities of life. They might not solve your larger problems but they will definitely give you more time to focus on what’s important and clear up mental space for you to deal with the bigger issues.

Meal prep in advance

Meal prepping is the easiest way to shorten your time in the kitchen and make healthy meals accessible. So take some time out, once a week or once every two to three days, to wash and chop your veggies, marinate chicken, and soak or stream pulses and grains. Having healthy ingredients on hand will make cooking seem less like a chore. You can also batch make tomato puree and ginger garlic paste and freeze this to use when you need, saving valuable time. Invest in some lightweight containers to store chopped vegetables in the fridge.

Invest in an air fryer

Kitchen gadgets help reduce the time you spend cooking by making chopping, blending, frying etc. easier and efficient. In many cases, they also save the time you would spend cleaning afterwards. A blender is a necessity in the kitchen. This will make everything—from making purées to juices—easy and effortless. It’s good to have a microwave as well as this will help you reheat food in minutes and without the need for extra pots and pans. But what we especially recommend is an air fryer. It’s a game changer and can promote healthy eating habits as well. An air fryer eliminates the need to use a lot of oil. In some cases, you don’t need oil at all. It’s a great time-saving alternative to frying that can be messy and time consuming and you can make basically everything from French Fries to Grilled Chicken in it.

Deal with clutter on a regular basis

You might not realize it but clutter can make everyday activities a hassle. You might struggle to find your keys or wallet as you leave home or lose or misplace things on a daily basis. By clearing out clutter—throwing mail you don’t need or storing things away—you will be creating more space in your life for things that matter and also make your home more aesthetically appealing. Take 10 to 15 minutes a day, every morning or before you go to bed, to put things away and toss things like receipts and wrappers that have gathered from the day. You will find that a cleaner home makes life so much smoother.

Schedule one day a week for grocery shopping

As we go about our busy days with a gazillion things to deal with, there is often the added pressure to do things like shop for food, buy toilet paper or soap etc. Although they might seem like small things, they take up mental energy and time. Scheduling a weekly grocery run simplifies things and saves you the trouble of having to run to the store for one thing or the other time and again. Make a list of things you need and shop in one go. You can also try stocking up on essentials like toilet paper, soap, toothpaste and the like to have to buy them once a month and not every or every other week.

Have a go-to bag of essentials near the door

More often than not, it’s a mad rush to get out of the house. As we run about gathering things we need, we keep forgetting something or the other and thus moving about the house to find them. Having a bag of essentials near the door or in a drawer by the door or shoe cabinet will ease this tedious process. Grab a large pouch and put things like tissues, lip balms, masks, pens, hair ties and other things you might need when you are going out in it. This will be your go-to bag of sorts that you can quickly grab things from when you are running late and find that you haven’t carried something you need. Keep this where you keep your keys or at least nearby so that it’s easily accessible. We guarantee this will help you reach wherever you are going on time.

Maintain an organized bedside table 

An organized bedside table can make you more productive as well as make your early morning or bedtime routine more comfortable. Not only does a well kept bedside area make your bedroom seem calmer and more put together, it also saves you the trouble of having to get up to fetch things as you wind down for the day. It’s a convenient space to store your essentials that you might sometimes even need in the middle of the night. You don’t want to go waddling through the house for a glass of water or a painkiller during the middle of the night. Place a nice glass tumbler with water next to your alarm clock and book and some basics like painkillers, creams, and throat lozenges in a tray in the drawer below it. The idea is to keep everything you need close by so that you don’t have to keep getting out of bed at night. 

As Nepal advances toward its climate commitments under the Paris Agreement and national plans, one target stands out as both urgent and ambitious: achieving net zero carbon emissions. This goal, though complex, is not impossible—especially if Nepal harnesses one of nature’s most powerful, yet often overlooked, climate allies: the Vetiver grass system.

With rising temperatures, rapidly melting Himalayan glaciers, unpredictable monsoon patterns, and an alarming increase in landslides and flash floods, Nepal is already living the harsh realities of climate change. While industrialized countries focus on energy transition, electric vehicles, and technological carbon capture, countries like Nepal—with limited industrial emissions but high vulnerability—must champion nature-based solutions that are affordable, scalable, and regenerative.

This is where Vetiver grass (Chrysopogon zizanioides) offers a uniquely powerful opportunity. Traditionally known for its use in soil conservation, erosion control, and slope stabilization, vetiver is now gaining recognition as a natural carbon sink. Its dense and deep root system, which can grow over three to five meters underground, allows it to sequester large quantities of atmospheric carbon dioxide into the soil.

Recent studies have shown that Vetiver grass (Chrysopogon zizanioides) has the potential to sequester 15 to 20 metric tons of CO₂ per hectare per year—a rate that rivals or even surpasses many tree-based afforestation projects. What sets Vetiver apart is its rapid growth cycle and its massive, fibrous root system, which penetrates 3 to 4 meters deep into the soil within a single growing season. Unlike trees, which can take decades to reach maturity and store significant carbon, Vetiver achieves measurable carbon sequestration in just months.

The deep-rooted nature of Vetiver is critical: carbon stored below 1 meter in the soil is far less likely to be disturbed by erosion, fire, or agricultural tilling, meaning the captured CO₂ remains stable and locked in the ground for decades, if not centuries. This makes Vetiver not only effective, but a highly reliable long-term carbon sink.

Moreover, the Vetiver System allows multiple planting and harvesting cycles per year depending on climatic conditions and management practices, which further accelerates carbon absorption. Each cycle contributes fresh biomass, organic matter, and root expansion—deepening the soil’s carbon bank.

From a land-use perspective, Vetiver can be strategically integrated into a variety of landscapes to maximize both environmental and economic benefits. On degraded and barren lands, Vetiver plays a crucial role in restoring soil fertility while sequestering significant amounts of carbon. Along flood-prone riverbanks, it stabilizes the soil, reduces erosion, and captures sediment-rich carbon, contributing to cleaner waterways. When planted on road and highway slopes, Vetiver prevents erosion and helps create resilient green corridors. Additionally, when used along agricultural field boundaries, it serves as a protective buffer that not only shields crops from wind and water damage but also enhances carbon storage capacity, supporting sustainable farming practices.

A major advantage of Vetiver is its low maintenance: it requires minimal irrigation, no pesticides, and thrives in poor soils. This makes it ideal for large-scale deployment in Nepal, especially through community forestry programs, local governments, youth cooperatives, and eco-enterprises.

In a time when Nepal seeks to meet its Net Zero Carbon target within the next five years, adopting the Vetiver System at scale could be the most cost-effective, nature-based, and scientifically sound strategy available.

Nepal’s net zero ambition is bold—but it is within reach. In Vetiver, we have a low-cost, high-impact, nature-based solution already tested across different terrains of Nepal. As the world looks for scalable climate solutions, Nepal has the chance to lead by example—not by waiting, but by planting. The Vetiver System is not just about green landscapes; it’s about a green future.

With the goal of achieving net-zero carbon emissions within the next five years, the vetiver system in Nepal shows promising potential. In 2022, Nepal emitted approximately 56.7m metric tons of CO₂ equivalent greenhouse gases. According to studies, vetiver grass can absorb around 15.24 metric tons of carbon per hectare per year. Based on this, Nepal would need to plant vetiver across approximately 333,335 hectares to offset its annual carbon emissions.

To achieve this goal within five years, vetiver would need to be planted on 66,667 hectares of land annually. Out of Nepal’s total 4.1m hectares of arable land, the proposed plantation area represents only 8.13 percent, making it both practical and achievable. To help visualize these facts clearly, a visual infographic has also been prepared, showing how Nepal can realistically achieve its net-zero target using the vetiver system.

To maximize impact, strong policy support and cross-sectoral alignment are essential. The government should formally recognize Vetiver systems within national carbon offset strategies and incorporate Vetiver-based interventions in future updates of Nepal’s Nationally Determined Contributions (NDCs). Additionally, it is crucial to facilitate streamlined carbon credit certification mechanisms, allowing local communities, municipalities, and private firms to access benefits from global carbon markets. By taking these steps, Nepal can accelerate progress toward its net zero targets while simultaneously unlocking significant opportunities for climate finance and green investment.

While carbon sequestration is a central focus, Vetiver offers multi-dimensional value across environmental and socio-economic domains. It plays a vital role in soil and water conservation by reducing erosion, restoring fertility, and enhancing groundwater recharge. In the context of disaster risk reduction, Vetiver strengthens slopes and embankments, offering natural protection against landslides and floods. It also generates livelihood opportunities through its use in handicrafts, essential oil extraction, composting, and livestock fodder. Moreover, Vetiver supports biodiversity and ecological regeneration by reviving degraded landscapes and fostering the growth of native flora and fauna.

With the rising popularity of Korean dramas (K-dramas) in Nepal, many young women admire the romance, fashion, love, success, and lifestyles portrayed on screen. These dramas are widely loved, particularly by female audiences. However, some viewers compare their own love lives to the unrealistic fantasies depicted in these shows—potentially shaping or even disrupting their relationships. But are these dramas setting unrealistic expectations for relationships, beauty standards, and success?

Over the past decade, K-dramas have taken Nepal by storm, captivating audiences with their catchy storylines, charming characters, and idealized romance. From romantic and grand confession in the rain to dramatic love triangles, K-dramas have always succeeded to allure the audience which have set an incredibly high bar for what romance should look like. 

Unlike Indian series, which often follow repetitive patterns, K-dramas feature diverse genres and dynamic storytelling. Male leads are typically wealthy, mysterious, and emotionally reserved at first, only to reveal a softer, protective side as the plot unfolds. Female leads, meanwhile, are portrayed as kind-hearted and resilient, winning over their love interests through sincerity.

For many Nepali fans, these idealized portrayals have influenced their views on relationships. Social media is filled with posts yearning for a “K-drama-like romance”—complete with grand gestures, deep emotional bonds, and unwavering commitment. Some admit that they find themselves comparing their relationships to what they see on screen, leading to feelings of dissatisfaction when real-life love does not match the drama-fueled fantasy.

Shristi Prajapati (19) shared, “I used to watch a lot of Chinese dramas instead of K-dramas, though I’ve cut back now. The love stories feel so realistic that I sometimes hope for the same connection in real life.” However, she acknowledges the risks: “Unrealistic expectations can harm relationships, making people feel their partner isn’t loving enough.”
Prajapati explained that she only wants the parts to be in reality which could turn into real life like showing efforts and all. “But I also think that it can harm the perfect ongoing relationship where once they gather the expectations in their relationship and it may create problems in the relationship where one may end up feeling sad and may think that their relationship is not going well or their partner is not loving enough.”

Shayan Shakya (22) reflected on his past obsession: “I used to dream about recreating dramatic moments in real life, not realizing some things only work on screen.” He added that conservative Nepali society made such fantasies even harder to fulfill, leading him to stop watching.

Anil Giri, writing for The Korea Times, noted that K-dramas avoid excessive vulgarity and lengthy runs, focusing instead on vivid portrayals of love, tragedy, and family issues—key reasons for their appeal.

The “oppa culture”—where women romanticize older, protective men—has also influenced Nepal’s dating scene. Many young fans now crave fate-driven love stories with grand sacrifices. However, experts warn that these narratives can distort perceptions of healthy relationships.
Psychologists said, “Real relationships can be disappointing and frustrating if you want your spouse to be affluent, protective all the time, and to have the characteristics of a male protagonist in a K-drama. Young Nepali males may experience pressure to live up to the ‘oppa’ ideal, which is to be powerful, prosperous, emotionally distant but kind, and in charge at all times.”

Khusbu Agrawal, a psychologist, explained: “Fans form deep emotional bonds with characters, leading to unrealistic comparisons. Real partners, being human, can’t match the grand, selfless gestures seen on screen, often causing feelings of inadequacy.”

While K-dramas entertain, viewers must recognize the line between fiction and reality. Love isn’t about finding a wealthy savior—it’s built on mutual effort and emotional maturity.

Agrawal added: “Romantic FOMO can make fans undervalue caring partners. Critical media literacy and open discussions are essential to mitigate these effects.”

“Social comparison, Media Influence (Cultivation Theory), Character Attachment (Parasocial Bonds), Escapism & Fantasy, Emotional Investment and Happy Endings vs. Reality is the reason why we compare our relationships to K-Drama”, she explained.
That said, not all viewers adopt unrealistic expectations. Inaya Kiju, who has watched over 200 dramas, said: “I fantasize about the love stories but know they’re fictional. As long as people distinguish between reality and fantasy, K-dramas won’t harm relationships.” K-dramas have undeniably shaped how Nepali youth perceive romance. While they offer heartwarming tales, it’s crucial to separate scripted perfection from real love—which thrives on genuine connection, not grand gestures. As long as fans enjoy these dramas without losing sight of reality, there’s no harm in dreaming—K-drama style.